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Life got you down? What if you could laugh anyway? Christian comedian Tracy DeGraaf (along with her bff Cathrine) will drop weekly episodes (Wednesdays) on topics you care about like how your marriage can survive your husband’s loud chewing, how you can laugh about your kids driving you nuts, and how to scoff off those lady whiskers and not worry about your Howdy Doody sleep wrinkle. Tracy and Cathrine have been next door neighbors and besties for over 20 years. They survived the Great Recession, teenage years, disappointment, health crisis, depression and other stuff that sucks. They have truly learned the secret of Life Happens Laugh Anyway. At the end of each episode, the ladies will point you to faith in Jesus Christ as the ultimate answer regardless of how weird life gets.
Episodes
Apr 29, 2026
Apr 29, 2026
41 min
🎙️ Episode 266:
“Are you there God? It’s Me Margaret. (Faith, Feelings & the Awkward Years)”
Ever wish you could go back and give your middle school self a hug… and maybe a better training bra? 😆
This week, we’re joined by Cathrine’s daughter Emily (film & theater grad 🎬) as we dive into the coming-of-age classic Are You There God? It’s Me, Margaret—and WOW did it take us back.
From awkward junior high dances 💃 to spin-the-bottle disasters 😳 to whispering honest prayers to God… this episode is equal parts hilarious, nostalgic, and surprisingly meaningful.
😂 What We Talk About:
- What even is a “coming-of-age” film—and why we love them 🎬
- A quick recap of Margaret (thank you, Cathrine 👏)
- Our own painfully awkward growing-up moments:
- Training bras that did absolutely nothing 😆
- Spin the bottle… but make it PG (hand kisses only ✋💋)
- Junior high dances = social anxiety with a DJ 🎧
- The real questions we had about life, identity… and God 🙏
💛 The Deeper Conversation:
Margaret talks to God—even when she’s confused.
And honestly? So do we.
We unpack what it looks like to:
- Bring your real questions to God
- Navigate seasons where nothing feels clear
- Trust that God isn’t overwhelmed by your uncertainty
👉 Truth: God isn’t intimidated by your questions… but He also doesn’t leave you stuck in confusion.
✨ 3 Takeaways:
1. Awkward seasons are normal (even necessary)
👉 Growth often looks like confusion before clarity
2. You don’t have to rush identity
👉 The world pushes labels—God invites relationship
3. God welcomes honest questions
👉 You can come to Him unsure—and still be heard
📖 Scripture
James 1:5
“If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault…”
🎯 This Week’s Challenge:
Instead of trying to figure everything out…
👉 talk to God about it.
No perfect words.
No polished prayers.
Just honesty.
Apr 22, 2026
Apr 22, 2026
40 min
This story is a sobering reminder that appearances can be deceiving. Someone can sound spiritual, lead a Bible study, say all the right things… and still be hiding something very dark.
We’re breaking down the warning signs we might ignore because we want to believe the best about people:
- Controlling behavior masked as “leadership”
- Isolation tactics (“don’t tell others” energy 😬)
- and so much more…
👉 It’s that we explained them away.
- “WAIT… how did this even happen???” 😳
- “At what point would YOU have started to feel something was off?”
- “Have you ever ignored a red flag… and later thought, ‘Yep. There it was.’?”
Apr 15, 2026
Apr 15, 2026
42 min
🎙️ Episode 264: Why We Overcomplicate Things
✨ 3 Takeaways:
- We overthink EVERYTHING (from dinner… to texting “K” and spiraling for 3 hours 😅)
- Simplicity is usually the better path—but for some reason we fight it like it owes us money
- Peace comes when we stop complicating what God already made simple
😂 In This Episode:
Ever taken something super simple… and turned it into a full-blown emotional documentary in your head? Same. 🙋♀️
Today we’re talking about why we do this—especially as women—and why “simple” can feel uncomfortable, risky, or even… wrong.
Cathrine dives into:
- Why our brains are wired to overanalyze EVERYTHING
- How past hurt and broken trust can make us question even the simplest situations
- Why sometimes we’re not overthinking… we’re actually over-protecting 💔
We also chat about insights from Jordan Peterson—how overthinking can stem from broken trust, and why (his words, not ours 😆) you should never lie to an over-thinker… because they will find it.
📖 Scripture:
Matthew 11:30 (NIV)
“My yoke is easy and my burden is light.”
Jesus didn’t design this life to feel like mental gymnastics 24/7.
Somewhere along the way… we added all the extra weight.
💡 Real Talk Moment:
Sometimes we overthink because we’ve been hurt before.
We’re trying to read between lines that may not even exist anymore.
But not everything is a puzzle to solve.
Not every silence is a signal.
Not every “K” means something is wrong. 😆
🎯 Call to Action:
Pick ONE thing you’re overcomplicating this week…
and choose the simplest response instead.
Don’t rewrite the text.
Don’t replay the conversation.
Don’t build the storyline.
Just… let it be.
Apr 8, 2026
Apr 8, 2026
38 min
🎙️ Episode 263: First-Time Mom: What No One Tells You (and What Actually Helps)
✨ Featuring Cathrine, Tracy and our special guest and Humor Contributor Valerie
1. You don’t have to be perfect to be a great mom—your baby just needs YOU. 💛
Let’s be real… the pressure is intense. But perfection isn’t the goal—presence is.
2. Shocking truths of motherhood 😳👶
No one tells you everything… but we will.
3. This season is hard, emotional, and exhausting… but it’s also sacred and meaningful. ✨🙏
Some of the most stretching moments become the most shaping ones.
📖 Scripture:
Isaiah 40:11
“He tends his flock like a shepherd… he gently leads those that have young.” 🐑💕
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🎯 Call to Action:
💗 Moms: Give yourself permission to not have it all together today—rest, ask for help, or let something go.
👵 Grandmas: Reach out to a new mom this week and simply say, “I’m here for you—no pressure, just love.”
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🎧 Whether you’re in the thick of new motherhood or supporting someone who is—this episode is your reminder:
You’re doing better than you think. And you’re not alone. 💛
Apr 1, 2026
Apr 1, 2026
43 min
🎙️ Episode 262: Dear Cathrine & Tracy – Part 2
Marriage, Boundaries & When Your Kids Choose Differently
💥 HOOK:
Marriage gets tired. Kids grow up and get opinions. And suddenly you’re asking…
“Wait… what just happened to my life?!”
Welcome to Part 2 of our Dear Cathrine & Tracy series—where we tackle real-life questions with honesty, humor, and just enough wisdom to keep us all out of trouble 😅
💌 WHAT WE’RE TALKING ABOUT
❤️ Keeping the Fire Burning in Marriage (Even When You’re Exhausted) We have decades of marriage experience under our belts with Muffin and Pooh (aka Ron and Kenny)
Listener Katie asks the REAL question…
How do you stay connected when you're tired, busy, and date nights cost more than your first car? 🚗💸
💡 Real-Life Tips We Shared:
- Greet your spouse first thing (game changer 🙌)
→ “Joel said what he remembers most growing up in a home with 5 boys is dad being greeted by mom when he walked in the door.” 🥹 - Micro-connection > perfection
→ 10 intentional minutes beats 2 distracted hours - At-home fun ideas:
- 🎈 Balloon volleyball (yes… it’s as competitive as it sounds)
- 🎬 Movie night—but make it intentional (no phones!)
- 💬 “88 Great Conversation Starter” cards (because “How was your day?” is TIRED 😴)
- After kids leave?
→ You don’t find connection… you build it again
🔥 Bottom line: Fun doesn’t just happen—you decide it does.
⚠️ Boundaries vs. “Canceling” Family (Let’s Talk About It)
We’re seeing a HUGE shift with younger generations…
Less tolerance for discomfort, more distance from family.
👀 So what’s healthy and what’s not?
✔️ Healthy Boundaries:
- Protecting yourself from abuse or toxic patterns
- Clear communication + consistent expectations
- Space with the goal of peace—not punishment
🚩 Unhealthy Patterns:
- Cutting people off over discomfort instead of working through it
- Avoiding hard conversations
- Labeling everything as “toxic” to escape growth
💬 Truth bomb:
Not everything uncomfortable is unhealthy… sometimes it’s just called being in a family 😬
💔 When Your Adult Kids Make Choices You Don’t Agree With
This one hits DEEP.
Different beliefs.
Different lifestyles.
Different paths than you prayed for.
So what do you do?
💡 Our Encouragement:
- 🙏 Pray (yes… keep going even when it’s been YEARS)
- 🤐 “Keep your mouth shut and the welcome mat out”
- ❤️ Love them where they are—not where you wish they were
- 🌱 Trust that God is working… even when you don’t see it
👉 You are NOT the Holy Spirit.
(And honestly… that’s a relief 😅)
✨ 3 TAKEAWAYS
- Connection in marriage is built in small, daily moments—not big, expensive nights out
- Boundaries should protect relationships, not replace them
- With your adult kids: lead with love, stay consistent in faith, and trust God with the outcome
📖 SPIRITUAL INSIGHT
📖 Psalm 1
Be the tree 🌳
Planted. Rooted. Steady.
Not tossed around by culture, opinions, or emotions.
When you stay grounded in God’s Word…
➡️ You’ll have wisdom in marriage
➡️ Grace in relationships
➡️ Peace when things feel out of control
🎯 CALL TO ACTION
💍 Married?
→ Plan a date night THIS WEEK (yes—even at home counts 🍿)
🤝 Struggling in a relationship?
→ Extend the olive branch first 🕊️
👩👧 Hurting over your adult kids’ choices?
→ Keep loving. Keep praying. Keep the door open.
💬 WE WANT TO HEAR FROM YOU!
Got a question or situation you want us to tackle?
Send it in—you might be featured on a future episode!
Email: tracy@tracydegraaf.com and make sure you tell us if you want to be kept anonymous
🎧 Life Happens… Laugh Anyway
Because sometimes the best thing you can do…
is laugh, love, and trust God anyway 💛
Mar 25, 2026
Mar 25, 2026
38 min
🎙️ Episode 261: Dear Cathrine & Tracy 💌
Anniversaries ✈️ Airplane Etiquette 😳 & Adult Friendships 🫶
Ever wish you had a couple wise (and slightly sarcastic) friends to answer your real-life questions?
Well… you do. 😄
In this episode, we pulled from YOUR submissions and tackled everything from dreamy anniversary trips to airplane drama to the age-old question…
👉 “Why is it so hard to make friends as an adult?!”
Let’s just say… we’ve got thoughts. 😉
✈️ 1. Where Should We Go for Our 40th Anniversary?!
First of all… FORTY YEARS?! 👏👏👏
We LOVE this question. Congrats to Gail and David
We talk about:
- 💕 Destinations
- 🔥 Florida
- 🧳 Missouri (Branson - Sights and Sounds Theatre)
- 🗺️ Michigan
👉 Bottom line: Don't go to Florida in August. Ha ha.
😳 2. Airplane Etiquette: Ma’am… Stop Kicking My Seat
You’re minding your business… sitting upright… being a model passenger…
…and the person behind you turns your seat into a punching bag. 😑
We discuss:
- 🙃 How to handle this (without ending up on a viral video)
- 😇 How to keep your testimony in tact
- 😂 When you just might need to get your doctor involved with a little prescription
👉 Pro tip: You can be kind AND direct. (Shocking, we know.)
🫶 3. Why Is Making Friends as an Adult SO Hard?!
This one hit home… and if you’ve ever thought:
👉 “I have acquaintances… but I want real friendship”
You are NOT alone.
We talk about:
- 👯♀️ Why friendships were easier in earlier seasons (hello, built-in proximity!)
- 📅 Why schedules feel impossible once kids + life enter the chat
- 💛 Moving from surface-level to soul-level friendship
👉 Truth bomb:
Deep friendship isn’t instant—it’s built over time, consistency, and showing up (even when it’s inconvenient).
✝️ Inspiration
📖 Galatians 6:9
“Let us not grow weary in doing good…”
Even in friendships. Even in marriage. Even in awkward airplane moments. (no kicking) 😉
🎯 Call to Action
💌 Got a question you want us to tackle?
Send us your best “Dear Cathrine & Tracy” scenarios—we’re just getting started! Part 2 next week. Please send your submissions to tracy@tracydegraaf.com
📲 And share this episode with a friend you’d totally go on a 40th anniversary trip with someday 💕✈️
Mar 18, 2026
Mar 18, 2026
30 min
🎙️ Episode 260: Won’t You Be My Neighbor?
Sometimes the simplest messages are the most powerful. ❤️ In this episode, Tracy and Cathrine dive into the heartwarming documentary about the life and legacy of Fred Rogers — the gentle soul behind the beloved children’s show Mister Rogers' Neighborhood.
What we discovered surprised us… moved us… and honestly made us tear up a little. 🥹
This episode takes a nostalgic trip back to a kinder, simpler time — and reminds us why being a good neighbor still matters today.
🌟 Episode Highlights
🎬 A Documentary That Touched Our Hearts
We share an overview of the beautiful documentary about Fred Rogers and why it felt so authentic and heartfelt.
It brought back memories of a time when:
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Life felt slower 🕰️
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People spoke with kindness 🤝
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Children were valued and heard 🧸
And here’s something we didn’t know…
👉 Fred Rogers wasn’t just a TV personality — he was an ordained minister who truly lived out his calling every single day.
His show wasn’t just entertainment.
It was ministry disguised as children’s television.
How cool is that? ✝️
💭 Cathrine’s Thoughts
Cathrine shares what stood out to her the most in the documentary, including the sincerity and compassion that defined Fred Rogers’ life.
Some of the biggest takeaways:
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Kindness is incredibly powerful 💛
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Gentle influence often changes hearts more than loud voices
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Loving people well is never wasted
😂 Tracy’s Thoughts
Tracy reflects on what struck her the most — and why Fred Rogers’ quiet faith and consistent kindness were so impactful.
It’s easy to think ministry only happens in a church building… but Fred Rogers showed us something different:
✨ Your calling can show up anywhere.
A television set.
A neighborhood.
A simple conversation.
Sometimes the greatest ministry is simply loving the person right in front of you.
📖 Spiritual Inspiration
Ephesians 2:10 (NIV)
“For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.”
You are not an accident.
You were intentionally designed by God for a purpose. 🙌
And sometimes those “good works” look less like big moments and more like everyday kindness.
A smile.
A conversation.
A helping hand.
💡 Listener Takeaway
This week ask yourself:
👉 Who is my neighbor?
Not just the person living next door — but the coworker, the cashier, the friend who’s struggling, or the person God places in your path today.
You don’t have to change the world…
Just love the neighbor in front of you. ❤️
🎯 Challenge of the Week
Do one intentional act of kindness for someone around you.
It could be:
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Sending an encouraging text 📱
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Helping someone who needs it 🤝
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Letting someone know they matter 💛
Small kindnesses can make a BIG difference.
❤️ Call to Action
If this episode encouraged you:
⭐ Share it with a friend
⭐ Leave us a review
⭐ And most importantly…
Go love your neighbor.
Because the world could use a little more Mr. Rogers energy. 🧥👟
Mar 11, 2026
Mar 4, 2026
Mar 4, 2026
40 min
🎙️ Episode 258: Ways People Can Serve
“We all love serving… until it’s inconvenient.” 😅
In this episode, we’re getting honest about what serving really looks like — when it’s beautiful, when it’s exhausting, and when it’s horribly wonderful (yes, Camp Daniel, we’re looking at you 👀).
From caregiving to mission trips, from BSF leadership to grandkids, from election judge duty to marriage… we’re unpacking how serving shapes us in ways we didn’t see coming.
Because serving isn’t just something you do.
It’s someone you’re becoming. 💛
💬 The Real Talk
We share about:
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Times we didn’t feel like serving (Camp Daniel. BSF. Caregiving for aging parents.)
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Learning boundaries before burnout.
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Why marriage isn’t 50/50 — it’s 100/100.
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Serving adult kids and those sweet grandbabies 🥰
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Showing up in your community (jury duty, voting, election judge life 🇺🇸)
💡 The 3 Big Takeaways
1️⃣ Serving Changes You
Serving has a way of exposing:
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Pride
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Impatience
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Control
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That tiny desire to be noticed 🙃
Maybe serving isn’t just about helping them —
maybe it’s about shaping you.
It builds humility.
It grows spiritual muscle.
It stretches your heart.
2️⃣ Serving Has Different Lanes
You cannot serve everywhere at full capacity all the time.
We talk about serving in:
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Church
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Family
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Work
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Community (jury duty, voting, civic responsibility)
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Country
Season matters.
Assignment matters.
Obedience in the ordinary matters.
3️⃣ The Heart Matters Most
You can:
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Serve resentfully.
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Serve for applause.
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Serve out of obligation.
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Or serve with joy.
Same action. Different spirit.
The question we’re asking:
Am I serving from love… or pressure?
📖 Scripture Anchor
✨ Mark 10:45
“For even the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.”
✨ Colossians 3:23
“Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord…”
If Jesus washed feet… we can show up faithfully. 🫶
🎯 This Week’s Challenge
Pick ONE place you’ve been resisting.
Serve there intentionally.
Don’t post about it.
Don’t announce it.
Don’t wait for credit.
Just do it.
And let God do the shaping. 🤍
Serving isn’t about being impressive.
It’s about being faithful.
And the quiet, unseen acts?
They might be the ones changing you the most. ✨
If this episode encouraged you, share it with a friend who needs a reminder that what they’re doing matters — even when no one claps. 👏💛
Feb 25, 2026
Feb 25, 2026
35 min
And are today’s parents overprotective… or deeply intentional?
We remember the independence.
We remember surviving.
Tracy shares a recent school presentation (you will love this one).
We now understand emotional development, trauma, attachment styles, and anxiety in ways our parents simply didn’t.
Underprotection can create wounds.
Intentional stewardship creates strength.
Not saviors.
Same need.
Your children were never as in-control as you wished.
God has always been the watchman.
And we are not raising them alone. ❤️